Today I stumbled on this post by Suzanne, whose child "Dandy" seems to have difficulty distinguishing between "assisting mother" and "assistant mother."
With foster kids (especially fostered sibling groups) it's not uncommon for the kids to struggle between total autonomy and this newly discovered dependence. Actually, it can be one of the tougher challenges of placing siblings together: The older ones still feel they need to be in charge of the younger ones, and find it hard to relax and become a child again.
If you've ever been in this situation, you'll be able to relate to Suzanne's experience!
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