tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post6278792218416903524..comments2023-10-31T08:06:52.230-07:00Comments on Mommy Monsters Inc.: In Defense of Adoption: Coping with "Phantom Parents"Heidi Hess Saxtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-83820255680322370582009-12-30T12:03:34.926-08:002009-12-30T12:03:34.926-08:00Amanda: Thanks for writing. While I agree that ado...Amanda: Thanks for writing. While I agree that adoption represents a loss to the child that even the best adoptive family cannot wipe away, I also contend that mothers (and fathers) who do not believe they can parent a child should not be pressured to take up the responsibility. <br /><br />It takes far more than food and clothes to parent a child. And if adoption is reserved only for those Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-16910239316515246862009-12-30T12:03:34.095-08:002009-12-30T12:03:34.095-08:00Amanda: Thanks for writing. While I agree that ado...Amanda: Thanks for writing. While I agree that adoption represents a loss to the child that even the best adoptive family cannot wipe away, I also contend that mothers (and fathers) who do not believe they can parent a child should not be pressured to take up the responsibility. <br /><br />It takes far more than food and clothes to parent a child. And if adoption is reserved only for those Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-14338043373054873492009-12-28T20:38:28.339-08:002009-12-28T20:38:28.339-08:00I also wanted to say that I find comparing adoptio...I also wanted to say that I find comparing adoption to an amputation to be a fitting description of adoption in its current form but also very unfitting of how adoption should be. Phantom pains are pains felt in the mind when no real real pain-causing event is occuring. There are Psychological methods, such as the mirror method, used to trick the mind into being "relieved" of this The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-17690803207573657942009-12-28T20:26:09.336-08:002009-12-28T20:26:09.336-08:00I actually am extremely impressed that a Catholic ...I actually am extremely impressed that a Catholic entity would put out such a publication considering the presence the Catholic Church has providing adoption services. It is important for all sides to be heard and as a Family Preservation Advocate (often termed as Ant-Adoption which is incorrect), I knew exactly what she was speaking of and I believe that many of your readers here misunderstood.The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-32591507387978255892009-04-01T11:03:00.000-07:002009-04-01T11:03:00.000-07:00I read the article and I simply feel that the auth...I read the article and I simply feel that the author has a narrow world view and is just plain wrong about adoption. I can say the same about biological parents raising their own, as I've seen plenty of misfitted families with parents who don't connect with their children and are unhappy in their roles, and who's children are miserable, depressive, and acting out. She obviously has had a naghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07135080798698433222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-29461012949613787142008-11-11T01:21:00.000-08:002008-11-11T01:21:00.000-08:00In a perfect world, parents would happily welcome ...In a perfect world, parents would happily welcome their children into the world at an appropriate time. Parents would be married, would be old enough to have jobs to support their offspring, would not have alcohol or drug dependencies, would not die before their children were adults, would readily "die to self" and put the needs of their children ahead of personal desires, would not be apatheticMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14591234069872271083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-76630383401692475952008-11-10T09:45:00.000-08:002008-11-10T09:45:00.000-08:00"Children do not inherit their faults and failings..."Children do not inherit their faults and failings merely by watching and imitating mom and dad. They inherit them on a much deeper level. "<BR/><BR/>I have never heard in Catholic teachings that faults and failings are inherited genetically. That sounds more like the Old Testament idea that sins are inherited, that illness was a result of the parents' sin. <BR/><BR/>Some of her earlier points HappyAutisticMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07155037824384409624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-88311902984799376772008-11-10T08:24:00.000-08:002008-11-10T08:24:00.000-08:00I read the antiabortion article that you linked to...I read the antiabortion article that you linked to and all I can say is that the author's reasoning is faulty. The writer seems to be discounting the power of free will and choice in our actions. She makes it sound as if we are slaves to our genetic background. <BR/><BR/>How sad, if true, for those of us from abusive backgrounds. Luckily for my children, I have not repeated the emotionally debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08520916893372615911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-66680459337851304262008-11-10T05:05:00.000-08:002008-11-10T05:05:00.000-08:00Right you are ... although I tend to think of St. ...Right you are ... although I tend to think of St. Joseph as more a "foster father." Remember, Jesus always referred to God as "my father." "Didn't you know I would be in my father's house?"<BR/><BR/>I've often wondered if St. Joseph yearned to have Jesus think of him as His "real" father. No doubt Jesus loved and respected His mother's husband -- and yet, His first loyalty remained. <BR/><BR/>So Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-35263477423716275062008-11-10T01:51:00.000-08:002008-11-10T01:51:00.000-08:00wait wait wait wait wait.now I'm new to Catholicis...wait wait wait wait wait.<BR/><BR/>now I'm new to Catholicism so correct me where I'm wrong here BUT.<BR/><BR/>Didn't St Joseph ADOPT Jesus and raise him as his own son while here on earth??<BR/><BR/>Aren't we all ADOPTED into the family of Christ at Baptism??<BR/><BR/>HUH???<BR/><BR/>I'm missing something...................MightyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02563721884001643857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-44102266066943173052008-11-09T21:38:00.000-08:002008-11-09T21:38:00.000-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Bernadettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618207578582480674noreply@blogger.com