tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post1765500714714950964..comments2023-10-31T08:06:52.230-07:00Comments on Mommy Monsters Inc.: Letter from a Birth Mother: Adoption RealitiesHeidi Hess Saxtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-37854891102226765352012-12-20T23:01:22.978-08:002012-12-20T23:01:22.978-08:00Dorothy of Oz is sure to be an instant classic for...Dorothy of Oz is sure to be an instant classic for the whole family. The film is due out next year but the buzz being created is undeniable. Between the vastly talented cast and the original music, how could you not be excited! Glee's Lea Michele is in the title role as Dorothy Gale and she will bring such a fresh sound to the legendary character. Let us not forget Martin Short, Bernadette Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11228698845179554407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-75260568634458513532011-05-30T11:43:15.772-07:002011-05-30T11:43:15.772-07:00I absolutely love your comment, "Our children...I absolutely love your comment, "Our children pave the way to heaven". Beautifully said. I agree, after fostering eight years, I think the enrichment, surrender, & love & grace that comes from these children are far more beneficial to me than any sacrifice I may make for them.<br />Bless you,<br />Jen<br />http://richfaithrising.blogspot.com/<br />...because Life IS a Poem!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14358082469481452041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-67535471563369372712011-01-03T17:39:03.095-08:002011-01-03T17:39:03.095-08:00If we work from the presumption that God is the so...If we work from the presumption that God is the source of all natural law, then His plan for marriage and family cannot be separated from the natural goods. While family is a natural good, it is but one of many -- and not necessarily the most important(as is life, for example). When you start with an intrinsically disordered act, the "natural" end is not always the most desirable.<br />Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-5609272848651096642011-01-03T16:14:13.416-08:002011-01-03T16:14:13.416-08:00Heidi, your statement shows you are not familiar w...Heidi, your statement shows you are not familiar with natural law. Natural law says nothing about the marital status of parents. Erin states she is Jesuit educated, which means she has studied natural law in both philosophy and theology classes. It goes against natural law to give up one's flesh and blood. Is it sometimes necessary? Yes. Is it natural? No.<br /><br />As for waiting for the Elizabeth Olmstead McBridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00416025882059686553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-24726938402551830142011-01-03T15:39:53.175-08:002011-01-03T15:39:53.175-08:00Elizabeth: "Natural law" dictates that a...Elizabeth: "Natural law" dictates that a child be born to married parents. This woman is trying to make a rational choice based on what is best for the child. Advising her to wait until she is holding the child in her arms to make the decision, while in her most vulnerable state, is not natural law but coersion. This line of thinking is precisely why so many teenagers and other Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-79473912547798590322011-01-03T13:52:40.842-08:002011-01-03T13:52:40.842-08:00As an adoptive mom I second what Mirah posted. The...As an adoptive mom I second what Mirah posted. The first choice for any child is with the family of birth, that is the natural order of things. As a Jesuit educated woman I'm sure you studied natural law. Give a great deal of thought and prayer to your decision, and don't make the final decision until you have seen and held your baby.Elizabeth Olmstead McBridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00416025882059686553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-10572022632147147292011-01-03T12:55:15.587-08:002011-01-03T12:55:15.587-08:00No one should be forced or pressured to parent, or...No one should be forced or pressured to parent, or not to parent.<br /><br />The problem that is routinely reported is that once an expectant mom THINKS about adoption and seeks out agencies etc., she hears only positive things about it, how wonderful it is, how noble, how selfless. Well being a mother is selfless and noble too!<br /><br />I simply want to ensure Erin - and any other mothers Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-39336683189422469522011-01-03T11:52:44.217-08:002011-01-03T11:52:44.217-08:00As can be seen here, the subject of adoption can b...As can be seen here, the subject of adoption can be a surprisingly controversial one, with those on both sides holding views that leave very little room for a cordial difference of opinion.<br /><br />@Tracy, no this is certainly not a fake. <br /><br />@Mirah: When a parent feels FOR WHATEVER REASON that she is unable to parent, her decision ought to be respected. While I agree that if she Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-83775989479491854782011-01-03T10:46:00.013-08:002011-01-03T10:46:00.013-08:00I hope this is fake. Sounds like some Christian p...I hope this is fake. Sounds like some Christian pro-adoption rhetoric. <br />Trading your baby in for a PHD is never the answer to an unplanned pregnancy, and having a 2 parent household doesn't take the place of losing your natural parents.Tracy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15684678838499608259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-54544227470317791152011-01-03T09:45:55.814-08:002011-01-03T09:45:55.814-08:00Dear Erin,
"I want him to have a perfect sta...Dear Erin,<br /><br />"I want him to have a perfect start with two parents that will be present in his life and who will love him as much as I do but who can afford to provide for him better than I can right now..."<br /><br />This is very noble of you, Erin.<br /><br />I have been researching adoption issues for more than 30 years and you need to know that there are no guarantees in Mirah Ribenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13626873757236976251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-27036838971020188432011-01-02T11:36:21.720-08:002011-01-02T11:36:21.720-08:00"In my darker days, I sometimes wonder if I m..."In my darker days, I sometimes wonder if I made the right choice, choosing adoption. While I love my children just as any mother loves her children, their particular needs can be overwhelming at times. And like any mother, I’ve learned how to cope with those darker feelings. The commitment we made to our children was a lifelong commitment – not an idyllic future."<br /><br />So true, Anne Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11453734960620777549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-16171347680484904982011-01-02T10:08:07.947-08:002011-01-02T10:08:07.947-08:00That actually makes a lot of sense, Heidi. As &quo...That actually makes a lot of sense, Heidi. As "Erin" pointed out, many younger, less educated women (including teenagers) choose to parent their babies rather than place for adoption. I've read similar studies. Thanks for taking time to write.Heidi Hess Saxtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02791510605285520649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9369642.post-28949916840334494232011-01-02T09:55:37.786-08:002011-01-02T09:55:37.786-08:00A social worker once told me that women who choose...A social worker once told me that women who choose adoption for children of unplanned pregnancies are actually more emotionally mature than those who don't. The fact that they are able to trust that someone else can raise their child is evidence, apparently. <br /><br />While there is certainly diversity in everything, I believe the "stereotype" of a college-educated, emotionally Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14852928197032856063noreply@blogger.com